I Never Thought of It That Way: How to Have Fearlessly Curious Conversations in Dangerously Divided Times

With sociopolitical divides among Americans continuing to intensify, Mónica Guzmán offers solutions to building bridges with those who disagree with our closely held beliefs and values. Not only does she have first-hand experience in this work as a journalist, she also has a very personal connection to it. Based in Seattle, Guzmán identifies as “very liberal,” while her Mexican immigrants voted for Trump. She shares personal anecdotes and research on cross-partisan differences, emphasizing curiosity, listening for shared values and sharing one’s stories with honesty and respect for differing perspectives.

This book appears to be written for liberal-leaning readers, especially those who are struggling to maintain mutually respectful connections with family, friends and colleagues with more conservative views. Not all relationships as dispensable, especially in an age where misinformation is leading loved ones to deny facts and science to dangerous ends. It’s even more crucial to engage those with different points of view to open up, rather than turning away.

Like all skills, these techniques take practice. But anyone who sincerely wants to bridge the gaps in understanding will appreciate this book. Guzmán is emphatic about making an effort to work on difficult conversations. When we understand where people are coming from, the path to understanding becomes clearer.